Over the years, the image of VanDerveer has taken two forms, one warm and engaging, one not so much. Her defining yin and yang appears to be toughness and tenderness. She demonstrates the former as needed; it’s the latter that people close to her often mention.—Game On
Tara VanDerveer has won over 900 basketball games, Pac-10 conference coach of the year ten times, and two national championships. So she’s pretty good.
The quotation above highlights the necessities of coaching, whether you coach men or women. You’ve got to be able to bring the hammer, but you’ve also got to care. I’ve seen young coaches miss the boat on this one, trying too hard to be their player’s friend that they are unable to effectively coach their team.
3 types of young coaches
- Young coach ignores obvious problems in order to be “fun”, “cool”, or whatever.
- Young coach is sometimes super “fun” in practice and other times oddly strict…their teams don’t know what to expect.
- Young coach is distant with players, not worried about being “fun”, but not able to connect with players on a personal level.
I’m pretty sure when I was first starting out, I chose the last of those options. Fortunately or unfortunately, I’ve never been burdened by the desire to be perceived as “fun”, so I didn’t care that my team thought I wasn’t “cool”. In my opinion, that’s the best option of those available, but I do think I could have worked harder to show my team I cared about them off the court.
3 qualities of tough coaches
- Demand consistent effort levels from their athletes,
- Set a high bar for excellence within their program,
- Challenge their athletes to embrace the discomfort of getting better.
3 qualities of caring coaches
- Let their players get to know them,
- Take an interest in their players personally,
- Stay in touch with former players.
Both sides of a coach are necessary. You don’t want to be a soft touch whose athletes take advantage of them, but you also don’t want to be so hard on them that they don’t enjoy their sport anymore. Finding the right balance is the key to a successful coach-player relationship.