Category Archives: Goal setting

Goal Setting: 7 Things Successful Coaches Do Differently

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Goals are usually things we talk about in relation to our players, but they’re also powerful for our own careers.  As usual, the wonderful Harvard Business Review has a great article on their blog, this one’s called Nine Things Successful People Do Differently.  That piqued my interest because I sure would like to be successful!

7 things we can do to make sure we accomplish our goals

  1. Seize the moment to act on your goals.  Let’s say your goal is to workout everyday of a particular month.  It’s a personal challenge that you’ve set up for yourself, because you understand that working out is good for you…it’s just that time always gets away from you.  If you’re going to complete your challenge, you can’t sleep in everyday and go home to watch television every night.  Carpe diem and get it in!
  2. Know exactly how far you have to go.  Here’s another scenario: you’ve got a player who you think should be an all-conference player.  She’s not there yet, in fact, she’s totally under the radar with the other coaches in your conference.  Figure out what your player needs in order to be the best in your conference…and then convince her to put the work in.  Understanding where she is and where she needs to go will be a great life lesson for her!
  3. Be a realistic optimist.  Wanting something isn’t enough.  Wanting to be successful isn’t enough.  Having positive self-talk isn’t enough.  Those are all good things, but they won’t make things happen.  While we want to stay focused on our goal and believe that we will accomplish it…successful coaches always assess where they are in terms of being able to check that goal off of the list.
  4. Focus on getting better, rather than being good.  A lot of times, people ask me how I have time to write this blog.  I always say the same thing: I’m trying to get better.  Writing this blog and speaking at different places forces me to learn more about working with people, different coaching techniques, and how to communicate effectively…all things that I believe will make me a better coach.
  5. Have grit.  According to the article, “grit is a willingness to commit to long-term goals”.  Even when we’ve totally crashed and burned.  Even when it looks like success isn’t in the cards.  Toddlers are gritty when they’re learning to walk.  They don’t fall down once and say, “oh well, guess I’ll just crawl everywhere.”  Nope.  They get up…again and again until they master walking.
  6. Build your willpower muscle.  Willpower is something we can practice, it isn’t just something we have.  Going back to our first example of the month-long challenge to workout every day for a month, that is a good test of our willpower.  You’ll probably feel great the first week or two, maybe even a little proud of yourself.  But those last couple of weeks might be a grind where you’re dragging yourself to the gym.  That’s building willpower.
  7. Focus on what you will do, not what you won’t do.  We’ve all heard people say that if you tell someone, “don’t think about a pink elephant in a tutu”, then the first thing that’s going to pop into their mind is a pink elephant in a tutu.  It’s the same thing with us.  If we say, “whatever you do, don’t yell at that player”, it’s going to be all you can think about.  You may not yell, but you won’t be focused on the task at hand.  Instead, let’s say what we will do.


These seven steps may take a bit of time to accomplish, but we’ve got time and we’ve got the drive to put the work in.  If our goals are important enough, we’ll do what it takes to accomplish them.

Goals: Hard Work, Faith, And Patience Required

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As I was putting my different review posts together, I realized that I haven’t written about goal setting all that much.  I think part of the reason is because goals are in that weird zone between tangible and intangible.  They’re certainly concrete and the thing that keeps the engines of our teams chugging along…thus the tangible.  But they’re not something you can grab hold of…we can’t teach goal achievement.  Thus the intangible.  Goals are in the no man’s land of my blog, but I have written a bit about goals…hope you like what you see!

5 posts to guide you and your team through the goal setting process

Basics
Teams are all about goals.  We have personal goals, short-term goals, and long-term goals.  But before we get into how to actually accomplish your goals, let’s go back to the beginning and check out what you need to accomplish your goals.  I’m not talking about follow-through and desire and motivation…much more basic than that.  I’m talking about the day after your season is over and you’re already looking forward to the following season…what will you need?  Here’s A Quick Way Your Team Can Accomplish Goals

Define
As a manager of people (and that’s what we are, right?), do you know how to lead your team through the goal setting process?  Every team has an interesting mix of individual and corporate goals…and managing those is an interesting process in itself!  We’ve got to come up with, define, and try to accomplish goals that are months away from fruition…that’s no easy task.  12 Step Program: Follow These Steps To Accomplish Your Goals

Motivate
I’ve watched parts of the movie Hoosiers with my teams before and the results are always good.  I haven’t used it as a “fire up to beat the big team”, because I worry that I’ll get them too riled up for one game.  But it’s great for an “us against the world” kind of thing.  And that mantra works whether your team isn’t very good and no one expects much from you or you’re expected to win it all.  The beauty in the movie is that it truly is a team that makes it happen.  Hickory’s new coach has a shady past, one of the player’s dad is a drunk, and their best player quits in the middle of the season.  Not exactly how you’d write up a successful season…but they are.  Together.  Effective Use Of Films For Goal Setting

Review
At the beginning of the season, the sky’s the limit.  But after a few weeks and some competition, the team starts to see where they stand…and that’s when it’s time to take a step back and give your team a hard look.  I don’t care whether or not your team is undefeated or hasn’t recorded its first win yet, every coach must give their team a once over.  We have an obligation to look at our teams with a mix of optimistic realism.  Let’s look at three areas where the discipline to confront reality is necessary.  3 Steps To Accomplish Your Goals…No Matter What

SMARTER
If you typed “goal setting” into an internet search engine, you’d get over sixty eight million results in less than a second.  Life is all about goals.  Whether it is to graduate from college within a certain time period, to get married by a particular benchmark, or even earn your first million dollars at a specific age…life truly is all about setting, achieving, and resetting goals.  I think can be a great gift that we give to our student-athletes which they’ll use in both their professional and personal lives for years to come.  G Is For Goals: Setting Attainable, Challenging, and Assessible Goals

As Charles C. Noble said, “you must have long term goals to keep you from being frustrated by short term failures.”  I think we all understand that we’ll fail a whole bunch on our way to whatever success we’re aiming for…goals will keep us focused on the big picture.

The 5 I’s Of Greatness

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Please join me for a fun series.  My mission, and I’ve chosen to accept it, is to write a post based on each letter of the alphabet.  The English major inside of me is very excited about this project…and my inner nerd is even more fired up!  Keep checking back as I tackle the intangibles of sport…from A to Z.

Is greatness a nurture or nature thing?  Meaning, can we teach greatness…or is it something that we’re born with?  According to Daniel Coyle, author of The Talent Code, we can teach it.  I’d highly recommend you read the book, it’s a little sciency, but a very good read…I wrote about it here.

Without further ado, here are five things which are essential to teams in order to be great.

  1. Initiative.  The first thing great teams conquer is fear of failure…because they know that failure is a step to success.  As John Wooden said, “If you’re afraid of failure, you will never do the things you are capable of doing.”   I often tell my team that they never would have learned to walk when they were toddlers without initiative.  Those little kids aren’t worried about falling over again and again, failure doesn’t bother them.  They don’t focus on the failure, but rather the goal in front of them.
  2. Intentness.  Great people don’t give up.  They set goals and pursue them relentlessly.  They are determined to pursue their goal…they understand that they may not reach the goal.  Yet they push on.  They are persistent in consistently practicing to the peak of their performance…they are tough.
  3. Identifiable.  Greatness can’t be disguised, it can’t be hidden, and it can’t be mistaken for something else.  It could be the player whose words can motivate and inspire her teammates to do what they didn’t think they could.  Or it could be the player who keeps working hard even though they are physically and mentally exhausted.  Or it could even be the player who has earned the respect of her teammates…even though she doesn’t get tons of playing time.
  4. Inspiration.  Great teams inspire one another to perform at their best level…they want to be the best, not for personal glory, but for the success of the team.  The coaching staff gets after it with recruiting, practice planning, and scouting their opponents.  Meanwhile, the players study video to make themselves better and learn their opponent’s tendencies…not to mention inspiring one another to push themselves just a little bit harder than the day before.
  5. Imaginative.  Great coaches, players, and teams can see success before it happens.  Success is not a surprise to great teams, but rather something they’ve played over and over again in the tape that runs in their heads.  Great teams visualize their success in vivid detail and then go about the work of making it happen.


There is something empowering about knowing that you are in control of your greatness and it should be exciting to your team as well.  Greatness isn’t something you’re born with…it’s something you can learn over time.

G Is For Goals: Setting Attainable, Challenging, and Assessible Goals

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Please join me for a fun series.  My mission, and I’ve chosen to accept it, is to write a post based on each letter of the alphabet.  The English major inside of me is very excited about this project…and my inner nerd is even more fired up!  Keep checking back as I tackle the intangibles of sport…from A to Z.

If you typed “goal setting” into an internet search engine, you’d get over sixty eight million results in less than a second.  Life is all about goals.  Whether it is to graduate from college within a certain time period, to get married by a particular benchmark, or even earn your first million dollars at a specific age…life truly is all about setting, achieving, and resetting goals.  I think can be a great gift that we give to our student-athletes which they’ll use in both their professional and personal lives for years to come.

Here’s a 3 step process to successfully set goals

Attainable.  I’m sure a lot of you have heard of S.M.A.R.T. goals.  The letters stand for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-based.  These are the criteria that all of our goals should have.  Setting goals without having a process to assess whether or not the goals have been met isn’t productive.  And isn’t that the whole purpose of goals…to make us more productive?  While researching this post,  I found out that someone has already thought of that and came up with S.M.A.R.T.E.R. goals, with the E standing for evaluate and the R standing for reevaluate.

Challenging.  I typically have my team leaders run the goal setting session.  A few of the guiding principles are: everyone contributes to the conversation, the goal has to require “the team” to accomplish, and it has to be measurable.  Those rules apply whether they’ve got three goals or twenty.  I’m sure you’re reading that and thinking that’s not very challenging…I’d disagree!  Getting a team of opinionated individuals to all voice their opinion, agree on what “challenging” is, understand the difference between personal and team goals, and make the goal measurable is a task in itself.

Assessible.  Our college has been pretty focused on assessment lately.  If your institution is anything like mine, a common phrase is, “oh, we already do that” when asked.  Are you recruiting a diverse student body? Oh, we already do that.  Are you putting the students first? Oh, we already do that.  Whatever the question, the answer is always: oh, we already do that.  The big dogs on campus answered quite simply, “that’s awesome…prove it!”.  Hence the assessments.  I can say I’m the queen of England, but no one is going to believe me unless I’ve got some concrete evidence.  Setting measurable goals will make assessing their viability much easier.

Athletes and coaches are goal driven by nature.  Let’s be sure to inform our athletes about the goal setting process so that it’s a skill that they’re able to use after their time with us is finished.

3 Criteria For Goals That Will Truly Motivate Your Team

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I’m sure all of us are looking for ways to inspire our athletes to achieve their highest potential.  And I’m sure all of us agree that goal setting is an integral part to any successful season.  Based on his TEDtalk, Why We Do What We Do, Tony Robbins gives us a “map” to properly motivating our teams.  First, we have to give each individual a role on the team.  Then we have to find out how to meet their emotional needs.  Finally, we give them the tools to make their team experience positive.  Read on to find out how!

3 things coaches should understand in order to motivate our teams

Three questions.  Robbins says that every decision we make (Will I go all out in practice?  Will I try something new and risk looking bad until I master the skill?) requires us to answer three questions.  He calls them the Three Decisions of Destiny.  The first question is “What am I going to focus on?”.  Let’s use “will I go all out in practice?” as our sample.  We have to get our players to focus on how their effort will benefit their team and help the team get closer to accomplishing their goals.  So rather than focusing on the pain they feel in working hard, their attention is on doing their part for the team.  The second question is “What does it mean?”.  Going all out in practice means verbally supporting one’s teammates, giving complete physical effort, and being willing to do whatever they’re asked by the coach.  The third and final question is “What am I going to do?”.  To make sure they go all out each practice, they will eat healthily, get plenty of sleep, and remain focused on their sport during practice times.

6 human needs.  We all are motivated by these six emotions/needs/beliefs…it’s the coach’s job to find out what button to push for each student-athlete.  The 1st need is certainty.  There are some things that our players need to know without a doubt: For example, the coach is knowledgeable, fair, and caring.  The 2nd need is uncertainty.  I know that seems to contradict the first, but I don’t think it does.  While some things should be set in stone, others like playing time and the starting lineup shouldn’t be certain…otherwise our starters will become complacent and the non-starters will be apathetic.  The 3rd need is critical significance.  Our teams should have a compelling reason for coming to the gym every day…and it’s our job to give it to them.  The 4th need is connection and love.  We all want to feel like we belong to something special and that there are folks out there who care about us.  The 5th need is growth.  If a player feels that they weren’t given the opportunity to get better (with skill, with leadership, with self-awareness), why come to practice every day?  The 6th need is the ability to contribute beyond ourselves.  Whether it’s team community service, sacrificing personal goals to help the team win a significant victory, or challenging your seniors to leave their mark on the team…we’ve got to give our players the ability to make a difference.

Becoming influential.  So we’re still using our sample question, “will I go all out in practice?”, as the example for this goal setting technique.  In this final step of the motivation process, we help our athletes create a positive situation for themselves.  We should ask them what their target is…meaning what do they hope to accomplish by going all out in practice (respect from peers, etc.)?  Next is to find out what their belief system is…will they stoop to gossiping and backbiting a teammate in order to get to “connection and love”?  Finally, we have to find out what fuels each athlete.  Robbins says that each of us has a dominant human need (certainty, critical significance, etc.) and the player’s goal has to feed that need.

Check out the video if you get a chance and see if you can put your own sports spin on things…it’s well worth the watch!

Believing And Achieving: How Groups Accomplish Goals

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It’s almost a cliché for a coach to talk about setting goals.  It’s how we’re wired.  We want people to be successful…and how can you be successful if you don’t have a goal in mind, right?  Helping people achieve things that they did not know they were capable of is one of the many reasons that I love coaching.  Since I’ve taken it upon myself to bestow July with the tag of “I Love Coaching” month, goal setting fits in very nicely.

The easiest 4-step process for goal setting ever!

#1:  Set the goal. In my post, Effective Use Of Films For Goal Setting, I talk about using the movie Hoosiers to help your team aim high with their goals.  It’s frustrating for me to sit down with an athlete and ask them what their goals are and they shrug their shoulders.  If they don’t know what they want to do, then my impact on their life will be minimal at best.  Just slightly better than the shoulder shrug is when they tell me that they want to win.  Of course we all want to win and more than likely they’re just saying what they think I want to hear…but winning is an outcome.  It’s the result of a process.  That’s when I have to refocus them on the things about the process that are within their control.

#2:  Go after the goal. Our athletes need three things in order to accomplish their goals.  They need a task…that’s the goal.  They need a support system because none of us can do things alone, we like to think we can, but we can’t.  Luckily, our players are linked up to a ready-made support system—their team.  The last thing they need is a reason to play, a stake in the game, a “push” to achieve that goal.  I wrote about these things in my post, Here’s A Quick Way Your Team Can Accomplish Goals.

#3:  Achieve the goal. Teams are all about goals and achieving them…but it’s a process and it is much easier said than done.  I wrote in my post, The 5 Stages Of Accomplishment, that goals will probably be a bit overwhelming at first, then scary, then seemingly impossible before they get to the point of actually reaching the summit.

#4:  Set a new goal. And because we can never be satisfied, achieving a goal just starts the whole process all over again with a  new and more difficult challenge.

Setting goals sometimes makes folks nervous, because now their success or failure can be measured.  It’s our job as the coach to give them the tools that they need in order to set goals that aren’t too lofty, yet not too low.  In A High Stakes Game:  The Goal Is Just The Beginning, I talked about the process of making sure a goal is appropriate for each person…check it out!  I think it’s a great way to think through the goal setting process.

7 Things Successful Coaches Do

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Coaches love to talk about success…it’s what we do!  I came across a great article on the Harvard Business Review’s blog that I’m sure you’ll love.  Nine Things Successful People Do Differently was written by a motivational psychologist (whatever that is) who has written a book about achieving goals.  You should check out the original article by clicking on the link above after you read my take on how it applies to us coaches.

7 things we can do right now to ensure our success as coaches

1.      Get specific. I think all of us coaches know this one already.  We can’t just say that we want our team to get better.  We’ve got to have SMART goals…specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely.  So, saying that you want your team hitting percentage out of serve receive to go up 10% by the end of the season is a better goal than just saying you want your team to hit better.

2.      Seize the moment to act on your goals. We’re all doing so much that it’s easy to get overwhelmed.  You’ve got to plan practice, a student just popped into the office, you’ve volunteered for one too many committees, and your kid’s got an orchestra concert tonight.  Hopefully you have some personal goals that have nothing to do with work.  I know it sounds crazy to some folks, but we’re supposed to have a life outside of coaching.  Did you really not have time to pray this morning?  Or go for a run? Or eat healthier?  Maybe it’s time to put yourself on your to-do list.

3.      Know exactly how far you have left to go.  Just like we meet with our players to access how they’re progressing, we should do the same things with ourselves.  With our professional and our personal goals.  How would the five-years-ago you feel about where you are in life?  Are you getting closer to those goals you had five years ago?  Have you moved on to new goals?  Do you have a plan in place to accomplish your goals?

4.      Be a realistic optimist. The first team I coached was not super skilled.  So when one of their goals was to win conference (in a very tough conference!), I had to ask them how they were going to go about accomplishing that task.  Because they didn’t have a very good answer, we reworded that goal.  As coaches, we’ve got to be just as realistic with our goals.  If you’re in the first year of coaching, you might not want to send in your resume to be the national team head coach.

5.      Focus on getting better, rather than being good. To me, success is defined by getting better each day.  “Good” is too hard to define.  “Better” is easy to define and hard to accomplish.  “Good” has an end point, whereas “better” is constantly morphing and changing.  “Good” looks to the past while “better” looks to the future.  “Good” says that there’s only one conclusion, “better” understands that we need to be flexible in order to accomplish our goals.

6.      Have grit. The author says it best in the article: “Effort, planning, persistence, and good strategies are what it really takes to succeed.”  It’s not who you know (though that’s helpful) or some innate skill that you have (that’d also be helpful)…it’s your ability and willingness to work hard.

7.      Build your willpower muscle. I have this idea in my head that everyone wants to hear my opinion, but for whatever reason, that turns out to not be true.  So when the desire to give unsolicited advice comes upon me, I’ve learned to zip my lips.  It hasn’t been easy and it’s a skill that I’ve had to practice in other areas of my life so that I can maintain positive relationships in my life.  What are some of my self-control “practices”: developing a workout plan and sticking to it, cutting out sweets (VERY hard for me), or training for a half marathon.  Just like we ask our teams to sacrifice now for something great that will hopefully happen in the future, we’ve got to do this as well.

With our crazy hours in the coaching field, the line between our personal goals and professional goals sometimes gets fuzzy.  I believe as long as we’re pushing forward on each front, we’re putting ourselves in a good place to be successful.

3 Lessons Your Team Can Learn From The Movie Hoosiers

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In Effective Use of Films For Goal Setting, I talked about the movie Hoosiers and how it can be used to challenge your team to blow past preconceived notions of how good they can be.  I haven’t used the movie as a rah-rah “let’s beat the dominant team” motivator, because I don’t want them to be that fired up about one team.  I talked about it in the post linked above…you should check it out.  It’s such a good movie that I’ve come up with more topics that you can use with your team during the season. Here are three ways that you can discuss Hoosiers if you decide to watch it with your team.

3 amazing lessons from Hoosiers

It takes teamwork to make the dream work
Ideally, your team is highly motivated and focused on what they want to accomplish personally as well as corporately.  It’s our jobs as their coach to push them along the way…reminding them that accomplishing goals and dreams shouldn’t be easy.  It will require hard work and perseverance.  Most times, the dreams that keep your team up at night will be bigger than their britches…accomplished only through the power of the group.  After all, is it really a dream if you can do it all by yourself?

You gotta play the game
To me, this is the major lesson of this movie.  You’ve got to lace up the shoes and give yourself a shot.  If you learn anything from Hoosiers, it’s got to be: the court is the same size, the hoop is the same height, and the rules are the same for both teams.  Sure, one team is favored over the other…but nothing matters until you play the game.  If your team can get to a place where they believe they have a chance to win (even when no one else shares that belief), then guess what?  They’ve got a chance to win!

Sometimes things work out just how you want them to
Every now and then, you’ll have a magical season.  Your seniors will step up, your freshmen will play over their heads…all culminating with winning the big game.  Sometimes it’s nice to let your team open up their brains to feeling good about the team and the season…to the possibility of everything working out.  It may not, but I think it’s more likely to happen if they’ve got a vision of what it’d look and feel like in their heads and hearts.

This is a great movie to get your team fired up about working hard.  Hoosiers is exciting, dramatic, and emotional…sounds a lot like the sports season, right?

3 Reasons Why “Want To” Is Not Enough To Guarantee Success

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I was out running the other day and saw a guy wearing a shirt that said, “Want Is NOT Enough!”  I thought it was great and couldn’t agree more.  If I want to run a marathon, but I haven’t run more than a mile…I’m going to be pretty unsuccessful at that marathon.  The same is true for our athletes and our teams.  Here are a few reasons that wanting to be good isn’t enough to turn our teams into winners.

3 reasons why “want” must be combined with “work”

1.      Want is easy, work is hard. Everyone wants to be good.  Every team wants to win the championship…that’s the easy part.  The hard part is the daily grind of practice, working out in the weight room, and meshing as a team.  Each of those things requires both mental and physical commitments from each of your players.  Your team has to be focused each day in practice…even when they’ve got midterms to study for or papers to write.  They’ve got to hit it hard in the weight room even when the coach is there breathing down their necks.  And they’ve got to be committed to building a strong team base by hanging out with each other off of the courts or fields.

2.      Want is talk, work is walk. People who want to be good talk a real good game.  Talkers generally find someone else to blame for why they aren’t walking their talk.  Maybe the coach is playing favorites or just no good.  Maybe the officials blew a call or didn’t call enough fouls.  Whatever it is, it’s not the talker’s fault.  Walkers on the other hand, they may face the same challenges but figure out how to work around it.  They may think their coach is playing favorites, so the walker works so hard that they become a favorite.  As an aside, all coaches play favorites!  Our favorite players are the hard-working athletes who don’t complain, but contribute in a meaningful way every day.

3.      Want is future, work is present. Want looks to the future, it sets goals and gives teams something to strive for.  Work is the dirty side of want.  Work pushes up its sleeves and goes about making the wants happen.  Without work, our goals are just ink on paper or words floating in the air.  But without the wants, work is mindless and pointless…the beauty is in the intersection! When want is combined with work, goals become real, living, and tangible.

There’s nothing wrong with having wants.  As a matter of fact, wants are what bring teams together.  But we can’t stop there!  When we combine want with work…that’s when our goals and dreams are realized.

The 5 Stages Of Accomplishment

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A friend of mine just finished up her master’s degree.  I stopped at the store (in a panic because I was running late) to pick up a card that would adequately tell her how awesome I thought it was.  And I came across one that had the five stages of accomplishment written on it.  I loved it and knew that I would bring them over here to you folks.  Check them out and see the wisdom that you can get from a simple greeting card.

Here are the 5 stages that our athletes will go through when they’re learning something new.

Denial: I can’t do it. When you stop a player mid-drill and say, “Hey, why don’t you try pointing your arms where you want the pass to go?”  Most player’s immediate reaction will be that they can’t do it.  No matter if they nod or say “ok, Coach!” or don’t acknowledge you at all…they’re freaking out a little.

Uncertainty: Maybe I can do it. After you come back around and give them a little love for the effort (not necessarily the result, because that’s probably still pretty bad), they start to get a little bit of confidence.  Not a lot…but just enough to move the meter from “positively canNOT” to “maybe”.  That’s progress!

Resistance: There’s no way I can do it. Inevitably, they’ll fall on their face and try to go back to doing things the way they always did…before you tried to “fix” them.  There can be lots of excuses at this stage:  (sassy) another coach told me to do it another way, (techie) I looked online and saw that your way was wrong, (sad) I’m just not good enough to do it the right way so don’t waste your time, (annoying) I tried it your way, but I like it my way better.  Whatever the excuse, our jobs as coaches is to remind them that patience is a virtue.

Panic: Aaargh! What if I can’t do it? This usually happens right around game time.  Practice is one thing, but games are altogether different and they probably think that they’re going to make a fool of themselves in front of their friends and families.  At this point, they know that they can perform the skill most of the time…but worry about the possibility that they’ll screw up.  And royally.  That’s when the wise coach tells their player that they will, in fact, screw up…and that’s ok.  Mistakes?  Not a big deal.  Trying something new?  Great, big, huge deal!

Acceptance: All right! I did it! Let’s party!! If that player gets into the game and tries that skill that you’ve been working on…celebrate.  If they perform that skill well…really celebrate!  Of course this doesn’t mean that they’ll perform correctly every time, but knowing that they did it once should give them the confidence to keep trying to get better.  And if our players get better every practice and every game, then our team’s can’t help but benefit.

So what do you think? Does that sound about right for the stages that your athletes go through until they’re comfortable with a new skill?